WRITER’S BLOCK

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Have you ever experienced Writer’s Block? Probably, I will hear lot of “YES” response for this. Well, who can understand this better than a writer himself/herself?

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“WRITING”- it is more of a passion than a profession. You can never compare it with a 9 to 5 office job. Be it blogging, article writing, content writing or book writing – nothing can be easily defined in a boundary of time and deadlines. Ideas start pouring in our brain all of a sudden, our creativity energizes and our pen gears up with a wonderful pace. It continues and we enjoy the journey. But, sometimes the journey comes to an unexpected “HALT”. Exactly in a same manner as your speeding car comes to a halt due to puncture or breakdown. And worst case is you don’t have a mechanic to set you back on journey. Most of the times, you keep struggling trying to find out, why there is a sudden black-out?

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Where are all your ideas and thoughts? The more you think, the worse it gets. Writing is not something that can be done forcefully. It moves on at its own pace, at its own time, in its own way. And this changes as seasons change. There is a time when all circumstances are in your favor. But, then suddenly you may notice a change. Time changes abruptly, blocking all your writing skills – A WRITER’S BLOCK. It is really disappointing and depressing at times. Especially, when it continues for a longer duration. For someone who loves writing, this “block” is equivalent to starvation. It may sound funny to those who do not write. I hope my writer friends here, will surely understand the concern. You start feeling useless all of a sudden. You do your best efforts to keep yourself back on track – changing surroundings, changing topics, changing writing patterns, reading , interacting and what not.

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This is seriously awful experience and scary too. This is what I am facing for quite a long time and was worried about. However, as I searched more on it, I got to know it’s not just “ME”. Almost everyone faces this at some point of time. People adopt different ways to deal with it and this is what I learnt from them. Do not “RUN” from it, instead learn to “OVERCOME” it. With more than 10 half-written topics, I was totally confused. I start every topic, with a new zeal & then I see its not taking a proper shape. I give up, take a break, relax and start afresh on a new topic. Months have passed with this exercise, and it’s driving me crazy now. There is nothing worse than loosing all hope. So, today again I stood up, to fight against my “Block”. “YES” – nothing is impossible, nothing is permanent & nothing is difficult.

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I have to get away of my fears, I have to get away of my “WRITER’S BLOCK”.

So, before starting my half-left topics, I felt why not, I shall start with my fear first. I am here writing about this “WRITER’S BLOCK” and I would love to have your experiences, your guidance, and your ways of dealing with it.

It’s always easy to walk on a smooth road,

Challenge is to walk on a rocky road.

It’s always easy to drive a perfect car

Challenge is to fix an unfit car for driving.

It’s always easy to enjoy autumn season,

Challenge is to enjoy the chills & the burns too.

It’s always easy to do your best in favorable circumstances,

Challenge is to do your best in unfavorable times too.

It’s always easy to run away from difficulties,

Challenge is to stand strong & face them.

It’s always easy to climb up to peak.

Challenge is to stay there without falling.

It’s always easy to welcome success,

Challenge is to welcome failures

And be confident that

Beyond them lies your success.

And the biggest challenge is,

-“TO TAKE THE CHALLENGE”

Today, I am taking my Writer’s Block as a challenge, and I am confident that I will be able to overcome it with my faith, confidence, determination and will power.

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5 YEARS ON WORDPRESS !!!!!!

5 years on WP

5 YEARS ,

58 BLOGS ,

300 + FOLLOWERS ,

1000 + LIKES,

12 AWARDS,

25,000 VIEWS,

And Visitors / Viewers across the Globe !!

Well, it was great to see a CONGRATS message for my 5th Anniversery on WORDPRESS. Five years of association, it has to be overwhelming but in actual I had a mixed reaction on reading it.

I am really grateful for the platform that WordPress provided me, and equally thankful to all my WordPress buddies here whose constant support, comments , appreciations and criticisms have helped in crafting out a better writer out of me. The regular interaction & sharing of thoughts have given a new direction to my thinking and have kept my spirits high , provoking me to write more and more. These 5 years of journey has been inspiring and enjoyable except the last lap, where I started facing the most terrible phase of “Writer’s Block”.

But, the Anniversery notification from WordPress did it’s part, igniting my sleeping brain & instructing it to get up. On this 5th Anniversery, all I want is to continue my association for many more years to come. So, its time to write, time to interact, time to expand my circle on WordPress & I am sure I WILL DO IT !!

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“COMFORT ZONE” – Well, what’s new or peculiar about it?

We all tend to have our comfort zones with respect to family, friends, acquaintances, dwelling place, workplace etc. We get so much synchronized and tuned up with this environment that we start feeling comfortable living in that. None of the place or situation is perfect. But, when we are well aware of the pros and cons, we get familiarity and preparedness which make us feel comfortable. The more we avoid changes, the more we become engulfed in these “comfort zones”. At times, we become so resistant to change that a mere thought of change starts giving us goosebumps.

And now comes the biggest questions :

What is the boundary of your comfort zone?
How rigid, it is?
How you feel about crossing this boundary? We may have following responses:

  • Case 1:

“Too rigid.
Do not want to cross comfort zone, unless necessary.
Anxious, afraid of exploring the world outside this zone.
Don’t want to take risk.”

Well, for this category, I will just say, you are missing the newness and liveliness of living life, you are missing the fun and enjoyment of exploring the unexplored, you are missing the challenges, surprises and opportunities. With your boundaries you are confining yourself to limited space in this world. You are imprisoning yourself in a cage though your wings have the capacity to fly high. My only suggestion is: Rethink and revisit your boundaries, For the greatest risk in life is to risk nothing.

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  • Case 2:

“Flexible.
Always ready to cross the boundaries.”

For this category, I will just say, keep up your flexibility and enjoy the changes. Keep flying , as for you “Sky is the limit”. But, at the same time, keep in mind that you are not overlooking your responsibilities and priorities.

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  • Case 3:

“Neither rigid nor flexible.
Depends on circumstances and responsibilities.
Can take calculated risk only in some of the areas.”

This is probably the best and practical approach. Think, Analyze, Calculate and Execute. Do not confine yourself to a small world and do not fly so high that it becomes impossible for you to return at your starting point. With every new experience, there may be a risk, learning or success. Play your cards wisely.

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OVERCOME YOUR FEAR,
BY DEVELOPING STRENGTH.

DEVELOP STRENGTH,
BY BUILDING CONFIDENCE.

BUILD CONFIDENCE,
BY TAKING CHALLENGES.

TAKE CHALLENGES,
BY EXPLORING NEW POSSIBILITIES.

MOVE OUT OF YOUR CONFINED COMFORT ZONE,
BUT DO NOT JUST FLOW.

EVALUATE YOUR RISK ZONE,
LIVE, EXPLORE, ENJOY AND GROW.

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REALITY IS – – ??

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What is Reality?

Reality is what happened in Nepal Earthquakes..
Reality is what happened in Kedarnath Floods..
Reality is what happened in Japan Tsunami..
Reality is what happened in Mount Everest Avalanche..

Reality is the uncertainty of the next moment.

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We are all aware of this reality, this truth. Still, we spend time, planning, analyzing, calculating. Still, we develop feelings of jealousy, disappointment, dislike, anger, dissatisfaction. Still, we keep ourselves busy comparing, complaining and cribbing.
What for? For the future? For the moment which you are not sure to see. For tomorrow, which may never come?

Life is unpredictable.
Live in present.
Enjoy the present.
Live every moment as if it’s your last.
Be Kind and Helpful.

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We all need to learn from these natural disasters. We shall all act on these alarms before it’s too late. It’s our interference with nature, which leads up to such disasters. We need to respect nature.
In this pathetic situation of Nepal Disaster, I urge everyone who is safe to pray for the well being of victims.

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O GOD! PLEASE BE KIND!!
Please give peace, courage and strength to the victims and bereaved families,
Please enlighten a ray of hope and show them a path,
Please help them in moving forward,
Please rescue them all from this disaster.
O GOD! PLEASE BE KIND!!
O GOD! PLEASE BE KIND!!

FORMULA FOR LIFE + + * *

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Formula, Equations, Theorems, Derivations, Rules, Protocols – We have them all around us guiding us.

What to do? How to do? Where to do? When to do? Why to do?

But, applying these formulas is not so easy. All of them do come with certain conditions, limitations and exceptions. If we ignore them, we will land up with wrong results.

How about our life? Does it also come with a formula, a set of instructions, a collection of guidelines?

Well, not exactly the mathematical formulas, but there are rules and protocols based on previous experiences. These are passed on from generation to generation based on the experiences of our ancestors.

Now, have you ever played the “Chinese whisper” game?

It is a game played around the world, in which one person whispers a message to another, which is passed through a line of people until the last player announces the message to the entire group. Errors typically accumulate in the retelling, so the statement announced by the last player differs significantly, and often amusingly, from the one uttered by the first.

With this what I am trying to emphasize is that when the rules and protocols get passed on they differ significantly from the actual one. The most common flaw that stays is the inclusion of conditions and limitations. What may be a right step in one situation can prove to be a wrong step in the other.

For instance,  it’s good to help the needy and poor. But, doing so to lure them for votes and politics is wrong.

Every rule is conditional. Many a times we follow the rules, but leave the conditions behind.

Have you ever faced these questions-

What to do? How to do? Where to do? When to do? Why to do?

We try to explore them to some extent. But, still there are lots of people who live their life without searching for answers to these questions. Instead of thinking, how we want to live our life, how we can decide what/when/where  we can do, we just look at our parents, society, friends and colleagues. Instead of deciding our own path, and analyzing the pros and cons we just start moving on their path. We blindly follow all others.

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Is it the right approach?

With this analysis, I am not trying to offend or dis-respect our elders. They do teach us good lessons and we have a lot to learn from their experiences. The only thing is, we shall understand the meaning behind every approach, every step. We shall follow the path shown by them, not just for the sake of following but for the sake of learning and understanding. We shall always be convinced of what we do. Being a blind follower takes us away from reality and satisfaction.

Lets share one story.

There used to be a closed room with a big ladder. On top of the ladder there was a platform with bananas on it. Then, monkeys were left in the room. Location of bananas was shown to them. The room was closed and a camera was placed in the room. All  monkeys approached the ladder. Some of them quickly started climbing and others were  left behind. They, then tried pulling back the other monkeys climbing the ladder. The struggle continued and after a while some of the monkeys  were replaced with new ones. Monkeys were replaced again and again. Every time, a new monkey entered, he started following the same activity. After a few more attempts, even the bananas kept on top was removed.

Now what?

Nothing changed?

The monkeys still continued climbing and pulling down.

They just continued climbing looking at their previous counterparts. But, they are not aware of the motive behind it – Bananas. The motive was gone, but they all still continued the same activity. None of them bothered about why they are doing so? What will they achieve on climbing?

This is what happens with most of us. We are not aware of the motive, circumstances and requirements. We just become a blind follower without analyzing what & why we are doing?

I will just conclude saying:

YOU HAVE YOUR OWN MIND,

WHICH CAN THINK AND ANALYSE.

NEVER BECOME A BLIND FOLLOWER.

JUST THINK BEFORE YOU ACT!!

LIFE DOES NOT COME WITH A UNIVERSAL FORMULA,

IT’S YOU AND ONLY YOU WHO CAN CREATE IT FOR YOUR LIFE!!

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|| Choose your PATH ||

cover pic cyp We all set certain targets in our life. We want to achieve these targets, reach the destination and prove ourselves. These targets may be social, professional or personal. With the specified destination in place our next challenge comes to deciding its path. All of us have different parameters to choose this path. We choose: – Actual Path – Easy Path – Fast path

ACTUAL PATH: The path of honesty, truth, hard work and challenges. It is the most difficult of all but at the same time it’s the Best.

EASY PATH: Pulling behind / cutting the roots of others so that benchmark falls down.

FAST PATH: Taking shortcuts. Instead of building your own ladder, you dump down someone already walking and climb over him instead of a ladder. If you reach up too high, too soon, just remember your foundation stays unstable. Only actual path gives a firm foundation. Easy/fast paths do not. People following these fall down easily as the foundation collapses.

THE PATH OF TRUTH, THE PATH OF HONESTY,
THE PATH OF HARD WORK, THE PATH OF DETERMINATION,
IT’S ALWAYS DIFFICULT
BUT, ALSO STABLE.

THE PATH OF BETRAYAL, THE PATH OF CHEATING,
THE PATH OF CLEVERNESS, THE PATH OF WRONG DOING,
IT’S EASY AND FAST,
BUT, NEVER STABLE.

IT’S UPTO YOU, TO CHOOSE,

TO CHOOSE IF YOU WANT TO RISE AND RETAIN THE HEIGHT,
OR RISE AND COLLAPSE DOWN.
TO CHOOSE IF YOU WANT TO GIVE SOME TIME FOR STABILITY,
OR KEEP IT FAST AND UNSTABLE.
TO CHOOSE BETWEEN A FIRM AND STRONG FOUNDATION,
OR A TEMPERORY, WEAK AND FALSE FOUNDATION.

IT’S ALL UPTO YOU,

TO DESIGN YOUR FUTURE,
AND DECIDE YOUR DESINATION.
TO CHOOSE, WHAT YOU WANT?
AND WHICH PATH TO FOLLOW?

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What YOU Want?

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Let us start with a few basic questions for you all:

1) What you want?
2) Why you want?
3) For whom you want?
4) What if you do not get what you want?

Look at your past and try to capture all instances that you can recall. It can be anything. Peace of mind, good health, good job, huge salary, car, home, power, fame, etc. etc. This gives the answer to our first question.

Now, ask yourself “Why”? Is it a necessity? Is it a luxury? Or is it a matter of status symbol?
Above answer can further be classified by the response on third one – “For WHOM? Is it for yourself? Your own requirement, satisfaction or contentment? Is it for your family, relatives, friends? Is it to serve them or show them?”
And last but not the least, go back and imagine not getting what you want. What could have been the possible repercussion in that scenario? How it would have made an impact on your living?

Enough of thought process for my readers. Now, let’s come to the point.

As per my analysis, more than 50% of the things we want are for the sake of showing to society. What they will think, what they will say guides our actions. These are the things which we particularly do not need for a living, but just to maintain a status quo. And this means our life is controlled by this society.

“WE ARE NOT LIVING THE WAY WE WANT, BUT THE WAY THEY WANT”.

I know some of you are still not convinced. There are more questions for you.

1) Suppose you get a choice of choosing a small segment car and a high segment luxury car. You need not bear the price and it will be chauffeur driven. Which one you will choose?

Answer 1: Of course the luxury car! It will put a good impression on my social circle.

Answer 2: Any car will do. I am not getting the driving experience, so it hardly makes a difference provided the passenger seats are equally comfortable.

2) Suppose you get a choice of choosing from an invisible Jewellery. It’s good, heavy, beautiful, costly. You can wear it, feel it, see it. But, nobody else can see it. Will you like to buy it?

Answer 1: No way. What’s the use if no one else can see it.

Answer 2: ??

No other answer exists. Jewelry is just to show around.
Isn’t it peculiar. There are hundreds of people around you who don’t even get a daily meal. But, you get contentment not in providing them a meal, but in boasting around with your costly jewelry. I know it will sound foolish to many, but the fact stays the fact. And the fact is:

“PRICELESS THINGS ARE MORE VALUABLE THAN THE HIGHLY PRICED THINGS”

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It’s time to think before it’s too late.

What do you want from yourself, your life?
What gives you satisfaction and contentment?
What you enjoy and like to do?
What is it without which you feel your life is incomplete?

THINK. DECIDE. ACT.

STOP LIVING THE WAY THIS SOCIETY WANTS !!
START LIVING THE WAY YOU WANT !!

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