It is difficult but inevitable to bid goodbye at several instances of life. There are so many types of goodbyes – Short term & Long term, Personal & Professional.

But, life is a journey and we have to keep moving…keep exploring new paths… keep enjoying new environment…keep switching to next phase of life…& keep focusing towards the next destination. Attachments & associations are good but changes are also essential. Anything that is stagnant is lifeless. So, if you have to be lively, you have to be ready for new changes & challenges.

If you find it difficult to move to a new home/city/school/office, to leave home & go to hostel/job, to leave school & move to college, to leave your parent’s home & move to your spouse’s place, then this blog post is for you.

Above instances are faced by almost all of us & they are so necessary for our personal & professional growth that we should learn to cope up with such situations wisely. If we talk about personal relations- Family & Friends, they never fade with distances. And with the technology today there is no bar for staying updated and be in touch. Now, talking on professional front, moving from school to college and then to job is also essential for your own growth & development.

Life is so full of experiences & every change teaches us something, so one should always be ready to welcome these changes with full zeal & enthusiasm.

Now, the above does not means that one shall be immediately ready to move away from family or to switch jobs or to relocate from one place to another. Also, some changes are implied on us by nature & by circumstances and are not in our control but there are some for which we are free to make a choice.  They need your own introspection, evaluation of your circumstances, your priorities & your goals. You then need to explore all pros & cons & go ahead making a wise judgment. The only point of caution is once you make a choice; do not go into cycles of thinking & re-thinking. Make a firm decision & thereafter never ever give a second thought as it may confuse / disturb you.

“Waters from many rivers continually flow into the ocean but the ocean never overfills.
In a like manner, desires and attachments constantly flow into the mind of the Illuminated One, but he or she, like the ocean in its deepest depths, is totally still and never disturbed.”

–         Bhagavad Gita

It is human nature to be dissatisfied with what we have & to strive for what we don’t. But, nothing is this world is perfect.  Yet, we always strive for perfection and the definition of perfection may vary from person to person. We all keep looking for a change in search of this perfection.

Every experience has blend of sweet and bitter memories. People generally pick one of them while bidding goodbye i.e., they only think of bitter , difficult moments & feel contended enough to get rid of them or they only remember the sweet & good part & feel bad for leaving those cherishable times.

Is this the right approach ? – “No, not at all.”

Even bitter experiences are good for us. They are a blessing in disguise. They teach us to struggle, they prepare us to face difficult times, and they caution us and give us a vision and understanding of good and bad. They make us strong & tough.

“Good judgment comes from experience and often experience comes from bad judgment.”

Now, talking about sweet, cherishable moments, good & happy times. It becomes so difficult to justify & prepare oneself for leaving such a place. But, in such a case just ask yourself is that place so heavenly & so attractive that you can spend a lifetime there? Will your choice of staying back at a single place not affect your personal or professional growth? Or, is it worthy enough that you are ready to sacrifice anything for it? Will it keep you satisfied always? And, in your answers lies your decision.

If all of the above is “YES”, there is no need to say goodbye at all.

But, if even one answer is “NO”, it’s time for a change, time to explore something new, time to start a new beginning & a new journey.

And instead of comparing new with old, fearing of what lies ahead, re-thinking on decision and dwelling in past, one shall focus on the positive points & welcome the change.

“The greatest risk in life is to risk nothing.”

Always, have trust & belief in yourself. Shed-off all the fear and anxieties related to new world.

It’s always good to be with new people, at new places, in new environment as they help us learn & grow, shows us different outlooks of life, helps us understand people & circumstances better.

So, friends I would just like to conclude by saying that “Goodbye’s” will always be there but “Welcomes” will also follow. Good memories & good friends will be the treasure that you take along with you and there will be many more treasures that await you. Always leave with a happy smile & a cheerful Goodbye.






Hi all…

So 17th Oct. 2010 is approaching soon….time 2 light up the torch for “FOPE DIWAS” once again. Today celebrating our 5th anniversery of friendship…lets go back down the memory lane and have a look at those cherishing moments which I feel were one of the best phase of our professional life…

16th Oct 2005 : Our journey started from Hotel Pritam @ Dadar to Lodhivalli, Patalganga.. lot of anxious faces… some wid enthu…some wid tension…..

17th Oct 2005…. Bus from township 2 LC auditoriam…whole day passed wid joining formalities & slight intro wid our batchmates.. all regions…all types…. Representing India’s …Unity in Diversity….

Then started study tym…v were introduced 2 few “PILLARS OF RELIANCE” as told by Alka Ma’am and it seemed s if v r bak 2 college wid classes whole day… bt then v started njoying tat phase…

N our daily routine was..reach office n go fr Awesome Breakfast wid lots n lots of “karipatta”…solving SUDOKU puzzles in classes..n sharing light moments with Abhay chacha.. (handwriting analysis…astrology etc..) .. Enjoying tea breaks wid Bourbon and Good day….

And the most nostalgic “making of refinery” video clip… IMPOSSIBLEEE!!……….. I-M- POSSIBLE…

And lot more moments to b shared..

Alibagh grp…..SAALAMI DO…

“Alibagh k do anmol rattan…ek onion te ek netwton..

Onion onion teray do nayan..”

GuGaMaTaDiJay grp…Guru ganguly maharaj tansen deepak jayesh..

Jamu’s gr8 efforts 2 explain “wat is chakadda”……..

Bongo’s creative cartoons…..

N our first Diwali party soon after v joined… Ganguly hosting that skit event….. n thn Pinku’s entry…”I vil also b host”…y only u…?.”Jyoti’s n Panda’s” superhit skit…

Our trip 2 khandala and lonavala…

N finally farewell day…our last day at PG..

28th Nov 2005 : Our journey from PG to JG….

Train journey was fun fr us and headache fr others in our coaches…

V landed in township at 12….rooms yet 2 b allotted and v were asked 2 catch 1.30 P.M. bus 2 LC….wat a shock..? n thn thr were many more.. it was lik leaving ur “dreamland” n land into “reality”… All serious strict faces arnd us…. N thn the whole grp divided in different plants…

For Crude group- RCB -UOP room was a blessing…. V were bak 2 fun tym… reading a bit and chatting a lot… Our initial plant visits wid lot of excitement n adventure which later turned out 2 b torture…. Wid shift duties and shutdowns…. Each and everyday had some “LIFETIME OPPURTUNITY” fr us…Bt whatever may come…our FOPE spirit has always been alive….

N I feel most of us who r Ex-RILs nw…really miss tat “happening”…fun-filled lyf …..

17th oct is really a milestone in my lyf…. Giving me a large network of wonderful frendz….

Wish u all “ A HAPPY FOPE FRIENDSHIP DAY”…!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Would like to share few FOPE mails from our group….which remind & summarise our “Good Old memories”

By Varun –—————————————————

“The first look of this large army bunker type building (RCB) with doors heavier than a bank's vault changed as soon as the confused guy entered the building and it felt like a small kid has just entered in Alice's wonderland. Even though I had company of other school mates (FOPEs) the total environment was giving a strange feeling until I found someone familiar - yes there was this life size picture of our Sh. Dhirubhai Ambani who stood tall, smiling and welcoming us. I must admit he gave enough confidence to a youngster who seemt like a debutant batsman facing Shoaib Akhtar as his first opponent. From the top glass row, entire view of Control Room flooded with screens and busy people jumbling computers seemt like a scene from James Bond's latest flick.

Soon we were directed to this large room (UOP room 1st floor RCB) where we were given a welcome speech by our HOD Sh. MAB which strengthened my impression that I have joined a post graduate program. Believe me I was not willing to accept that I am on job until Sh. SMP joined the stage. And than we had our first lecture on H2S, yes H2S was the thing which made it different from a post graduation course to “On the job Training”. Soon we were provided with our courseware the thick white bound manual with strict A3 size schedule clearly specifying the deadlines and dates for validation. That was the point when RIL taught me the concepts of goal orientation and target hunting, I mean can you digest the fact - just imagine you open a thick text book and on the very first page instead of acknowledgement you find something like dates of examination.

Now lets go outside the cozy environment of RCB. Every one was astonished to see the giant plant. We stood amazed to see all giant structures wondering what they were & correlating them with the black & white pictures in our college books. I was so happy when I figured out something like a venturi (although it was too big than I saw in my college lab) close to the so called heaters that I felt like a chemical engineer for the first time in my life. And the thought vanished out soon when I and my best friend in crude could not figure out ejectors even after climbing to top PSV platform of Vacuum column.
If I try to express all my feeling this mail will be like a novel and the size may energise our IT department to lock my e-mail id but still before I leave, I want to say thanks a lot to many people in Crude Department of which some have already left RIL.

By Priyanka ——————————————————————————

here i contribute to the chain mails by reminding and recollecting worst FOPE fears.

1. first day fear- what is FOPE?? everyone hoping its an engineering job and similar to the GET’s. P.K Jain explained in great length about the great scheme.

2. first week fear – atleast most of the girls wanted not to be sent to jamnagar and hoped they get to stay in mumbai.

3. first month fear – whether JG will have anything else to look forward to except the plant. hoping it not to be a deserted island.

4. second month fear – i call it jana fear and JG LC terror (military regime implemented). thankfully it lasted less than a week.

5. first 6 months fear – VALIDATIONS.this is my special fear and crude FOPE’s know why 🙂

6. First year fear- FOPE’s are taken as operators for JERP and there will be no recruitment for any new operators.

sweating it out in the field, this fear appeared so real.

7. Second year fear – BONDS, BONDS and more BONDS.

o GOD !! will i ever come out is what everyone thought.

strangely, JG’s pay revision also turned out to b a terror.

there r more fears which still linger on there like IT dept. fear and writing this i realize my mail can cause some fear for some of you and so i stop now.

FOPE’s can truly survive anywhere and everywhere now.

we have seen it all………..


I hope we got many more FOPE mails but I could not recollect them all….

So, all my FOPE friends….plz contribute and do share….some memories of FOPE Days…

Hope 2 celebrate this 5th anniversary by being together atleast through mail and phones…

Wish U all a HAPPY FOPE FRIENDSHIP DAY…!!” once again…


Prasanth’s contribution …(FOPE Flag )..!!