In my previous blog, I tried to lay emphasis on the meaning & importance of relationships. Each & every relation is significant with its own meaning, its own necessity &its own worth. To follow our roles we have to be faithful in all of them. But, now when we are dealing with a bunch of relations– father, mother, brother, sister, spouse, grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, nephews, niece and friends—how to decide who takes priority over other?
Who is more important –
Parents / Children / Spouse?
Friends / Siblings?
Your paternal relatives / Your maternal relatives?
Your own relatives / Your in-laws?
Such confusions, such questions keep coming in our day to day life as there are several instances when we are not able to please everybody. We dwell in dilemma, we think & re-think & we proceed with one of them and then there is flood of misunderstandings & complaints from the other side. If the other side stays calm, then also, you keep introspecting and questioning yourself that you took the right decision or not? So, isn’t it better if we prepare a priority list & ease the trouble instead of thinking over again & again.
So, what are you thinking… pick the pen.. think of your special ones & start preparing a list based on priority. You have 15 min. , be honest , prepare the list and follow the second half of the blog when done.
What happened? List prepared?
Case 1 : “YES”
Are you satisfied? “To some extent”.
Do you have any doubts/ confusions? “Yes, I am not sure if my priority order is justified or not?”
Do you want to think again? “No, Don’t feel it will solve the problem.”
Is the dilemma of choosing amongst relations over ? “No”.
Case 2: “NO”
There were more & more confusions. There are so many relationships around me…I feel like I am tangled in a spider’s web.
Don’t know if I have to keep my mother on top who bought me in this world…who taught me crawl & stand & walk?
Or, shall I keep my spouse on top, with whom I have committed to share all phases of life, to walk together come what may, to stand by in all joys & sorrows?
It’s impossible to make a rightful judgment.
What is the correct approach then? Most of our life is spent in maintaining & retaining the relationships & instead of joy & pleasure they become burden at times. We feel like breaking the chains & running away from all these boundations and we start getting afraid of this word “relationship”.
Oops, the most beautiful painting on the canvas of our life, the sweetness & pleasures of beautiful relations…they have become a nightmare for us.
Instead of being a part of beautiful garden, where our parents stand like roots, where we stand with our spouse like trees, where our children stand like fruits, where our siblings stands like flowers, where our friends stand like grass…We feel like a part of spider’s web in a dark room, tangled badly and searching for an escape route.
So, isn’t there any solution to ease out the things?
Well, I don’t know if this will satisfy all or not…but for me there is simple solution. It all depends on perception & in my perspective:
We never have to choose between “RELATIONSHIPS”…We have to choose between “CIRCUMSTANCES”.
We never have to choose between “WHO” needs us most…We have to choose between “WHAT” needs us most.
We never have to choose who is “RIGHT” or who is “WRONG”…We have to decide how to handle the situation calmly & peacefully. (Home is not a battleground or court… It’s like a temple where everyone shall be respected & pleased, where everyone wins but no one looses).
“WE NEVER HAVE TO WIN ARGUMENTS…WE HAVE TO WIN HEARTS.”