RELATIONSHIPS REDEFINED…

RELATIONSHIP BLOG

“Relationships” — The word is so big…the meaning is even bigger.

Let’s start with the dictionary meaning — “The way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected.”

So, here I am going to talk about relationships of people…how they are connected….and what does that means…something that is beyond dictionary meaning. More than half of the world deals with problems in one relation or the other. So, I am just trying to explore the essence of this word w.r.t. different types of relations that we are engaged with.

Even before we take birth on this earth, we are bonded by a word called “Relationship”. The first relation we are associated with is that of a Mother & Child. And the day we are born we are tied up with so many bondings…so many relations…our grandparents, parents, siblings, uncles, aunts and lot more.

And there is one more relation….a unique type with the one who can’t be seen by eyes…who can’t be heard by ears…that’s our relation with GOD.

We don’t have the faintest idea of what these words means and it is assumed that we will learn as we grow. These blood relations are implied on us not by choice but by GOD, by destiny… and as we grow we mould their meanings the way we like.

There are few relations that are based on our choice as well… – FRIENDS & SPOUSE … but we often see troubles in these too….Why? Does that mean we were not wise enough to choose the right candidate….? Does that mean we are not qualified enough to choose? Or does that mean we don’t really understand what to look for…what to expect for..?

For some of us, they just remain words by which we are supposed to greet each other….for some they become implied boundations which we are just supposed to follow without an escape route….. for some they are duties that are to be followed too religiously in a particular, defined manner ….and  for some they are “FEELINGS WITH MEANINGS” ….they are feelings to be felt….feelings to be enjoyed…feelings to be cherished…feelings to be expressed… 🙂

Just attaching a tag name of son or brother does not suffice your relation unless your heart speaks with that love and concern for your parents & siblings.

In my perspective, relations are not the words that need to be defined…they are to be understood

This is not mathematics with theorems & definitions… There is no measure for love, affection, care & kindness….

There is no definition for relations…

But there is one truth about relations….if they are pure …they are not for selfishness…they are not for your self- interest…as they involve mutual consent on both sides… They are not for give and take…but they are certainly for exchange of happiness, pleasure & affection from both sides….They have a foundation of trust , faith, & sacrifices…They are not built by force or compulsions…but by feelings inside..

That is why, true relations are ones which don’t fade by distance….for your hearts are always connected…  🙂

I would just like to take few examples,

The relation of Mother & Child :

The purest relation of all…engrossed with love, affection, trust, faith, concern, care..and the list goes on. If we look at an infant baby, it’s Mom who is at the giving end… she feeds , she cares, she sacrifices , she loves…and what she gets in return – “Immense Happiness”. This is the relation which starts when child cannot speak, when the child is not aware of the meanings of words spoken in his/her ears… but still a crying child wants to go in mother’s arm when hungry & father’s arm for roaming around… Have you ever imagined how infant baby understands????

Because infant baby feels it…the love…the care… their pure heart know what is to be felt.

But, when children grow up…, it’s for them to give respect to that love and care with which they are nurtured and grown up. Some children give it and some doesn’t. Some listen to their heart and some listen to their matured brains which works on logic…which thinks about profit & loss… which thinks of business even in relations…

But, Mom’s love …it stays the same…as it was unconditional, without expectations, without any self interest. It’s just that if we respect them, we add on to their happiness and this is the least we can do.

Our relation with GOD :

Have you seen GOD, have you heard GOD, have you talked to HIM…. “NO”. Then, what binds you to HIM…. They are our feelings of course, feeling of trust & faith, feeling which tells us that HE exists, feelings which tells us that HE listens…

So, the same goes with all other relations—- For me

“RELATIONSHIPS MEANS THE EXCHANGE OF FEELINGS OF LOVE, AFFECTION, CARE, CONCERN, TRUST, FAITH, RESPECT ETC. BETWEEN TWO….. AND IF WE CAN FEEL IT…WE CAN GIVE TRUE ESSENCE TO THE WORDS CALLED MOTHER, FATHER, BROTHER, SISTER, HUSBAND, WIFE, UNCLE, AUNTS, NEPHEWS, NIECE, FRIENDS AND ABOVE ALL THE ONE AND ONLY ONE—- ALMIGHTY GOD.”