A writer’s mind

Now, this is a topic raised by most of my readers. For those who are just readers there is always a curiosity to know how does one writes.

How you choose topic?

How you start writing?

How much time it takes?

How many drafts you make before the final post?

Do you think first or you just start writing?

And the list goes on….

Well, for me, writing is a hobby, a passion. I love writing and reading. What all I write about revolves around the things & circumstances happening with or around me. I keep observing and analyzing, finding reasoning & conclusions and this where I get my topics from. Once, this exercise is done and I get something good enough to jot down, I just pick up my laptop and start recollecting my thoughts to put them in words. It usually takes around half an hour for the first draft & then I spend some more time polishing it, formatting it, & of course choosing an appropriate image to accompany it. And then I hit the “publish” button & it’s done.

Thereafter, I eagerly wait for people to give their opinions on them. I mostly write about how I think of people, circumstances & world around us…what I interpret of it…& what my approach is…  I am not perfect and so is with my thoughts..In fact, for most of things we cannot just define a boundary line of right & wrong, it is more about what pleases you and your conscious. So, when I pour my feelings here on blogs, I get different views, different ideas which at times changes my outlook and at times it helps me justify that I am on a right path.

I have been also asked what if my writing & ideas are criticized. Well, I would just say, that I do look at criticism as a favor to me. It gives me a direction and scope for improvement.  It shows a path forward. I am not perfect & such comments help me in moving one step closer to perfection. So, all positive comments shows me I am on right track, all negative ones help me change my track & this is how I move ahead in my journey.

But, this goes well with blog. For writing a book one needs lot of patience, lot of hard work & I believe it’s really a tough task. I have tried doing so several times but no success so far.

So, it’s my request to all my wordpress buddies to share their experiences about writing – a blog, a poem, a book. On this platform of writers & readers it would be really great to know about your “writer’s mind” too.

 “WORDS ARE THOSE POWERFUL TOOLS WHICH CAN WIN WHAT WEAPONS CAN’T”.

“WORDS IF EXPRESSED WISELY HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE THE WORLD.”

“WORDS CAN POUR YOUR THOUGHTS ON PAPER, SO THAT OTHER PEOPLE CAN ENJOY THEM TOO.”

Wish you all a happy time ahead in this “WORLD OF WORDS”..

Keep posting…Keep writing…Keep reading..!!

Understanding “MISUNDERSTANDINGS”

MISUNDERSTANDING – Root cause of several conflicts, disputes, disassociations & break-ups.

It is human tendency to judge people based on their actions. We observe, judge & make some opinions about everyone surrounding us. In the process we sometimes end up with a wrong interpretation also. We shall remember that neither we nor our observations are always perfect. At times what we see is not what is behind. There may be different circumstances and reasons for a person to behave in a particular manner. What matters are the intentions.

The only way to tackle such misunderstandings is to talk, to openly explain your confusions & ask for clarifications. But, some people become so egoistic, so self obsessed, so angry or so confident that they prefer ending up the things instead of moving forward & resolving.

Before framing any such opinion, one shall listen to instincts, one shall evaluate the past records, one shall always give a second thought, one shall always analyze how trustworthy & faithful the other person was? No one can change in a day.

It’s not the person or intentions that tend to change with time its only “circumstances”.

So, if a misunderstanding is cropping in between, move forward and evaluate the circumstances in between. Focus on “what” has changed and not on “who” has changed. It’s better to cut the roots of such instances before they become too firm and you end up building a big boundary line on its foundation. Few relationships are too precious; don’t just let them fade away for mere misunderstanding.

But, again there is a word of caution. There are two faces of every coin. When I say we can be wrong at times, we can be wrong at any phase. It may also happen that the one who we trust was never worth trusting. It may happen that when something objectionable & alarming happened we ignored it thinking it’s just a misunderstanding. It may also happen that when you approached for clarifications you were misguided. There are people with dual faces, they look sweet and they attack you from back. One needs to be alert with such people. In fact, sometimes such experiences make us see everyone around us with doubt & suspicion.

With all this said, I would like to conclude that-

Listen to your mind..

Listen to your heart..

Listen to your instincts,

Watch the actions..

Frame the observations..

Do the analysis,

Try to find out..

If it’s the person..

Or the circumstances,

If it’s a correct interpretation..

Or misunderstanding,

Track the past records..

But, be alert if such instances repeat,

Don’t just ignore..

Don’t over-react,

Be balanced..

Be Calm..

Be patient,

And just move forward,

With what pleases you the most.

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It’s like a protective shell which surrounds me from all that comes…

It’s like a vast ocean that tries to dissolves all my sorrows, fears & disappointments…

It’s like a delicious platter that serves me so many joys & fills my life with wonderful tastes…

It’s like a wonderful painting that has a blend of all colors at a single place…

It’s like a performance stage where I have freedom to act & react the way I like…

It’s like a temple where me and my family love & respect each other…

HOME….SWEET HOME…. It’s my “Heaven on this Earth”…

Happy Mother’s Day…Love you Mummy :)

Mummy, Mumma, Mom, Mother ——- The first relationship with which a child gets bonding.

The first feeling that a child gets – The feeling of belonging,  the feeling of togetherness. The everlasting bond built on the foundation of love & faith. Mother’s love and affection for a child is beyond compare. It’s the purest relations of all.

On this occasion of Mother’s Day approaching soon, I & my sister would like to dedicate this blog to our sweet, special, wonderful, adorable Mummy.

We don’t have words to define,
We don’t have sentences to explain,
For what we have are feelings,
Which are to be expressed…
What we have is love,
Which cannot be measured…
But, you know & we know,
Child & Mother is a bond,
Where the unsaid is understood,
And, you know & we know,
How much we both LOVE YOU

Wish you all the Happiness in Life…Stay healthy & stay happy to keep your sweet daughters happy too.

LOVE YOU MUMMY…..WISH YOU A VERY HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY…!!!!!!!!!!

And here’s more by Nupur Rastogi on MOTHER’S DAY :)  http://ikebanaofnr.wordpress.com/2011/05/08/mothers-day/

Chasing your “DREAMS”

“IF YOU CAN DREAM IT, YOU CAN DO IT”.

Dreams – All of us have dreams. Almost all humans, all age groups have some sort of dreams.

They can be realistic, non-realistic, personal, professional, for you, for your family & friends, short term, long term & the list goes on.

So, what is you dream? And, what are you doing to make it come true?

Well, it is always said that:

“FOR DREAMS TO COME TRUE, THE FIRST THING YOU HAVE TO DO IS WAKE UP.”

Ofcourse, everyone try to put in the best effort to make the dream come true. The more passionate you are about your dream , the more dedication & effort you show to achieve it, to make it happen. But, everything is not in our control.

Sometimes, our destiny puts such circumstances in front of us that however hard we try, we are not able to make our dream come true. We have to let it go and compromise on something else.

Most effective examples of above case are seen in case of professional dreams. There are cases where kids are forced to choose / study the stream that their parents want them to. They are supposed to forbid their dream & choose the other path. It is not always family pressure, there are other circumstances also like not getting through the entrance exams, financial limitations etc. which forces the student to opt for some other course.

Now, the challenge is how well you compromise on the situation and fit yourself in alternate career.

How to cope up with the situation when you failed to chase your dream?

When you get your dream job, it’s your interest & passion that drives the work out of you and make you excel. You enjoy your work and put in your best.

But, when you need to settle down on some other career, work load seems to be a pressure to you. Even when you try, it becomes very difficult to understand and go to the core depth of subject. Your attitude of working is not accompanied with the sense of responsibility & accomplishment but with the attitude of working just for the sake of working. As a result, you are not able to give the best of your performance and in long run, it starts hindering your growth making you frustrated & dissatisfied.

It’s always best to chase your dreams & get what you desire. But, if not one shall also learn to get the best out of what they got. Always be positive in what you do & be strong enough to face the realities. Don’t keep on getting frustrated for what you have not got. Instead, try to make what you have got worthy by giving your dedication in that. And, who knows, if you try, you my probably start enjoying this new area & excel in that.

So, friends

“ALWAYS RESPECT ALL THAT COMES TO YOU,

IT’S A BLESSING OF GOD,

YOU MAY NOT LIKE IT,

BUT YOU CAN TRY TO ENJOY IT…!!!!”

“IT DOES NOT DO TO DWELL ON DREAMS AND FORGET TO LIVE.” 

― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone

“INNER” Self Vs “OUTER” Self

All of us must have heard about dual personalities. A term basically used for people who present themselves in one way but they are actually feeling & thinking in some other way. It is always considered the best option to stay away from such people. These dual personalities are portrayed as those who betray, cheat or do back-biting.

But, have you ever introspected yourself?

Do you present yourself in exactly the same manner as you are?

How much you know your ‘own-self’ compared to others around you?

How many times you try to contradict your own thoughts?

How many times you felt that your sub-conscious is occupied by the thoughts which your conscious had shed off?

What I feel is that almost all of us have this dual personality. What we feel & how we react is not always in same line. But, the difference lies in identifying what actually differs in our feelings & our actions?  As long as we don’t think any negative like betraying/ cheating others, we consider ourselves clear hearted.

But, in defining dual personalities we miss the positive aspect at times. There may be a situation when we hide our true image just because we didn’t felt the need to expose it. People frame opinions with what they see. So, it may also happen that you are good but no one realizes this as your casual presentation never reflected what you exactly are?

There is always an “Inner Self” in us. This has always remained with you. This is something which knows all about you. Your “Actual” Self…your “True” Self. This is the “True” Self which sometimes contradicts our own decisions. This is the “True” Self that always stays in your “Sub-conscious” mind.  But, this is pure, clear & without any fabrication.

However, our “Outer Self” is our “Presentable” self. It is fabricated at times depending on circumstances & need of the hour. It is framed by our logical & decisive thinking , by evaluating pros & cons, by analyzing effects & results.

Now, the only thing one has to be careful about is the differences between our own Inner & Outer self.

More difference results in more conflicts. It results in difference in opinion in our own decisions.

It results in our sub-conscious representing our “Inner Self” & conscious representing our “Outer Self”.

And last but not the least this becomes the root cause for disturbing our mental peace.

So, friends it’s time to introspect & find out if you too have dual personality? If yes, do work out on this and try to minimize it to the best possible extent.

LIFE BECOMES TOO EASY AND PEACEFUL, WHEN-

YOU ARE FREE,

YOU ACT THE WAY YOU LIKE,

YOU PRESENT THE WAY YOU FEEL,

YOU TALK WHAT YOU WANT TO SPEAK,

YOU THINK AND JUDGE WITH YOUR MIND,

BUT YOU LISTEN AND WALK WITH YOUR HEART !!

ALWAYS TRY TO BE WHAT YOU ARE,

FOR ITS BEST…TO STAY THE WAY YOU ARE !!

MIRACLES…

Do you believe in Miracles?

Do Miracles really happen?

What exactly are Miracles?

Do Miracles happen only by GOD’s grace?

Are Miracles really miracles or they are just illusions?

Is it a “Miracle” if something unexpected but positive happens?

Is it a “Miracle” if we get something that we wanted but it seemed difficult to achieve?

Is it just a coincidence which we sometimes term as Miracle?

Probably those who have ever experienced miracle will have answers to above questions.

We are at times so hopeful for the things we want & things which are almost impossible to get that we start assuming a miracle will happen one day and our desires, our dreams will turn into reality. Though its good to be hopeful & optimistic but to some extent only. We cannot just assume that come what may…a Miracle will occur and all our wishes will be fulfilled.

To turn any dream into reality we need to put in our efforts. To get desired results we need to perform our actions. So, what I believe is that: “Most of the times, Miracles also happen if we want them to happen. .if we let them happen.” We just can’t sit, wait & watch for a miracle to happen. One must not depend on them & wait for them.

But yes, “MIRACLES DO HAPPEN”.